Did you spend time on New year’s planning, vision boarding or setting goals? I’ve enjoyed hearing and reading about some lovely rituals my friends practice to review, transition and set intentions for the coming year.
Unfortunately, many people focus on the things they didn’t accomplish and set goals for the new year based on failure thinking. If reviewing 2013 brought up those kinds of feelings, I’d like to suggest a simple tool to keep you focused on moving forward so that you will look back on 2014 with a sense of accomplishment.
Make a list of projects, experiences and accomplishments from 2013, both business and personal.
For each of those successes, ask yourself what motivated you to compete the tasks. Note the parts of the project that you enjoyed, the things about doing them that felt joyful, natural, easy and the areas that felt challenging in a good way.
Sometimes an outcome that we deeply desire requires a few pieces or tasks that we have enormous resistance to and keep us from realizing our dreams.
Now, rather than looking at what goals for 2013 you didn’t follow through on, look at your list of intentions for 2014.
What tasks involved in each of those goals excites you? Put a star next to those.
Which parts are you not thrilled about but feel you can handle in order to achieve the big picture outcome?
Then ask yourself if there are any tasks on the list that you dread doing and circle those. We’re assuming that these unpleasant tasks are pieces that must be done to achieve an outcome that will make your heart sing. If the resistance to those icky parts is unclear, close your eyes, imagine doing each task and pay attention to how it feels in your body. If it’s just neutral or a little fluttery, your resistance is probably due to not knowing how to do it or feeling overwhelmed with the size of it. If that’s the case, maybe ask a friend to show you how or a coach to help you break that piece down into smaller chunks
and line up the baby steps that will lead to this larger task. If overwhelm is the issue, GO HERE for some helpful tips to get out of overwhelm.
If embodying the task makes you feel physically ill, it’s probably not going to happen regardless of how organized you are. Assuming this thing you don’t want to do is necessary to achieve the goal as a whole and assuming you’ll feel great when you imagine the whole project complete, it’s best to delegate it.
If the cost of outsourcing that dreaded task is more than you expect to see in return from the big picture, how else can you accomplish it? Is there someone you know who is proficient at and enjoys doing this piece? What strengths or skills do you have that you can do for them in exchange? Maybe you have a friend who’s a techie wiz but hates to write. If the technical part is your thorn, can you barter? You do some of her writing and she does your tech piece.